 DEAR BONNIE:
It's hard to know where to start when one begins tossing themselves out there into the wind like we know what we're doing. When someone like that (certainly NOT me!) comes across someone like YOU who, through simple acts of kindness (like adding a writer's website to her blogroll) causes others to take notice, it cannot go unnoticed. On this day, BONNIE APPRECIATION DAY, or BAD, I'd like to thank Bonnie for her support, her kindness, and her wit. Love you babe. (Click the pic and check out Bonnie's page)
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 IF THE BROOMSTICK FITS, RIDE IT!!!
Looking for some holiday reading? Wish that you could get a sneak peek of your favorite authors’ fiction? You’re in luck! For the first time ever, the Spanking Fiction Authors’ group is presenting a collective Halloween short story extravaganza. It’s trick-or-treating for adults, and we do mean adults! Even better, participation could earn you a GRAND PRIZE!
What’s the catch? Absolutely nothing! We love writing for you and want to thank you for your readership. Perhaps someone might get a spanking or two, but that’s a reward rather than a catch, right? ;) Here are the rules:
As an extra treat, all Spank-or-Treaters are eligible for free books!
Participating Authors (subject to change) and story questions Alice Dark What kind of spanking do you think you deserve? *Anastasia Vitsky Describe one of the "lesson plans" you would recommend to Natalie. Prize: A s hort-short story (500-1000 words) describing you or me getting/giving the spanking of your choice. Limits negotiated individually. Only one spanking in the story, please! *Cara Bristol What is your fantasy Halloween costume? Prize: $10 gift certificate to Amazon or Barnes and Noble (winner's choice) *Celeste Jones If you had magical powers, what would you do first? Prize: $10 gift certificate to Amazon Claire Colinsgrove Should submissive wives be spanked if caught reading “vanilla porn”? *Constance Masters Who came to the door and caused Jenny’s big lie to come crashing down around her? *Prize: $10 gift certificate *Emma K. Gardner What monster would you like to be spanked by? Prize: Halloween-themed Lush products *Patty Devlin Have you ever frozen your tushy off in costume like Cami for your husband? Prize: $10 gift certificate to Blushing Books Renee Rose Has your costume ever gotten you into trouble (the good or bad kind?) Prize: $10 gift certificate to Amazon Rollin Should Sam have left before things got so crazy? *Starla Kaye What kind of business does Kareena own? Prize: Eden Fantasy mask *Sue Lyndon Do you think Tammy deserved extra spanks for attending a Halloween party panty-less while her husband was out of town? Prize: $10 gift certificate to Amazon *Denotes authors hosting an individual contest on their blog. In addition to the grand prize, commenting on these authors’ blogs enters you in a separate contest for the prize liste. Like our Facebook page! http://www.facebook.com/SpankOrTreat Tweet about the fun! #spankortreat The fine print: Only one entry per person, please. Late or incomplete sign-ups (i.e. only visiting some of the blogs) will not be accepted. Participants must be age 18 or older. Attempts to spank the authors will be met with ridicule or giggling, depending on the individual. If the winner does not claim his or her prize within one week, another winner will be randomly chosen from the original participants. For updates, please visit: http://governingana.wordpress.com/2012/10/06/spank-or-treat-2012-halloween-contest/  I have been participating in a great back-and-forth over the last couple of days on a blog site called governingana. Visiting Author Cara Bristol wrote about the nature, or in her words, the 'Catch 22' of Domestic Discipline fiction, and pointed out that 'Domestic discipline requires an approval from the reader that other contemporary fiction doesn’t. A reader has to accept that spanking for discipline is okay on a basic level for purposes of the story to enjoy it. (They don’t have to accept it in real life.) To some people, the idea that a man punishes a woman is totally unacceptable even in fiction and you’ll never find an offense that warrants a spanking in their minds. But they’re not your audience.' Then Cara went on to say the following: 'What intrigued me about TTWD was the aspect of living a double life, keeping TTWD secret from vanilla friends & colleagues. Being in the closet. That’s what inspired the Rod and Cane Society series…what if within a context of closed society, people could be open about TTWD?' This launched the discussion about what VANILLA actually means.  When I first heard the term, many years ago, I thought it was clever. I got the metaphor. Plain. Ordinary. Regular. When I started writing romances that contained spanking scenes I believed I had not yet crossed that line from vanilla to whateverelsethereis. In my early work, and even in my published work, especially The Point of it All, the sex, while hot, was...regular. The relationship between Val and Diana was very passionate, yet I did not write the sex scenes with lots of erotic descriptions. Vanilla all the way. That he spanked her and she allowed it, though...where exactly did that fall? So what does VANILLA mean, exactly? Well, if you look it up on Wiki or whatever, it's as you'd figure: VANILLA SEX is regular, conventional sex, without the kinks and labels.  Ah ha!!! Without the kink. So, then, if you have a hero (or heroine) who spanks for discipline and/or sex in your book, it is kink? Have you crossed that line into theoppositeofvanilla? Good question, and one we pondered over at goveringana. Pick up a Johanna Lindsay romance from the 80s or even the 90s, and you'll find a spanking scene, or at least the threat. Grab a book by Linda Lael Miller or Kat Martin from this decade and you'll find the same. The brilliant Tai Pan by James Clavell has two scenes. Kinky? I'd say not. The sex in all these books is pretty much fade-to-black, but the hero spanks the heroine for some misdeed and they move on. It's not what the story is about. Vanilla? You bet.  So, then, when is that line crossed into another flavor? To me, it's when convention is set aside, when normal is not the norm, when regular turns to irregular. Now, one can argue that regular is in the eye of the beholder. True, but for yuks, let's all assume that regular is tab-A into slot-B sex, with oral tossed in for kicks, that there is no tying up of hands or feet and no whips, paddles, hairbrushes or leather of any kind is used. Oh, and she can be on top as much as he can. So then NON-VANILLA sex would be implements, binding, some humiliation, some age play...we could go on and on. I think we get the picture and we can agree on some sort of dividing line, and how faint that line is lies with the beholder.
So as writers, when defining our audience, does VANILLA play into it at all? Cara answered a commenter's musings on audience with this: '...interesting points by touching on audience perception and predisposition toward spanking. The question is who is the audience? What is considered “spankable,” to a Spanko audience can be very different to a vanilla audience who only wants to read a little kink. An author has a greater burden to prove that the spankee deserves to be punished with a vanilla audience.' I can attest to the very real fact that if the wrong person gets hold of a book with non-consensual spanking in it, you, the author, will hear about it. It isn't for everyone. Can an otherwise VANILLA reader become titillated by reading a spanking scene? Yes. Does that make them suddenly NOT VANILLA? I don't think so. The vanilla sensibilities are still there. We can talk about wiring, how some of us are predisposed to spanking, BDSM, domination, submission and the like, yet our lives day to day are decidedly normal. VANILLA. Clearly I've just muddied the waters here. I have no answers, and a vanilla person can indeed become turned on and turned around by reading a well-written spanking or BDSM scene. When I first started writing I was not comfortable with words like pussy and cock. Never used them. My sex scenes, while hot, were more about feelings and romance. Things got a bit hotter with To Love A Woman, but I think in the erotica genre I have a ways to go. VANILLA. That's me. Where do you stand on the issue? I'd love some other opinions. |
AuthorJade Cary writes Romantica and Romantic Suspense, on the rocks with a twist. Bottoms up! 
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